101 TRUE Internet Love Stories
True internet love stories with photos of couples who have met online...

Have a Little Faith!

My name is Anna.  I'm just 19 years old and believe to have found the love of my life.  I met him on the internet, and I can't believe I remember the exact day we started talking, July 6, 2001.  He told me his name was kain. It seemed like we were destined to meet because my friends and I had gone into a chat room and started talking to him and his friends, but then left the chat room. Well, we went into a different one, and it turned out they had went into the same one.  Well we started talking and it seemed like Kain and I had an instant connection. But there was a slight problem.  He was in the Army and stationed on the other side of the world in Korea.

Even though after you hear the stories about not giving your phone number and stuff over the internet, I did it anyway, but I gave him my cellphone number just to be safe.  Well he called me that night.  I couldn't believe he called me all the way from Korea.  He didn't sound the same over the phone as he did on his mic in the chat room.  He sounded even more beautiful.  I fell in love with him because of his laugh, as funny as it seems.  It was so cute, and it made me smile and laugh too.  Finally we exchanged pics, and he had some doubts, but he emailed me a pic anyway.  I opened my email and found an enchanting, gorgeous, strong, man of my dreams.  And he had told me I was even better then he could have imagined.  We talked every night for a little over 2 months.  It was the best 2 months of my young life.  I sacrificed my sleep and my summer to stay up until sometimes 5 in the morning to talk to him.  Since he was in Korea there was a 14 hour time difference we had to work around.

He talked to me while all his buddies went out to the clubs and picked up girls.  I know it hurt him not to be going out and having fun.  But he kept telling me he wouldn't be there talking to me if it wasn't the feeling he had in his heart.

He told me he loved me.  Now I'm a hopeless romantic and always thought that if a guy told me he loved me I would be so in awe of him that I would have to say it back.  Even if I didn't mean it.  But with Kain it was different.  I wasn't sure what to say and he told me it was okay if I didn't love him yet, but that I would one day.  I asked him to wait for me.  And about a week later I emailed him and told him one simple phrase.  "I've hit the ground."  I wasn't sure if he would understand what it meant.  But I had faith in him.  That night he got online and messaged me and the first thing he said was "No you didn't, I caught your fall." From then on He's had my heart wrapped around in his arms.

With him being in the army and all it was hard b/c he was always moving around.  But from day one he said he wanted to come visit me and I honestly believed that one day we would meet.  He decided to come on September 23. But we couldn't talk for the week before he came b/c his troops were moving to a different camp and he wouldn't have his computer hooked up.  But then September 11th happened and they took away his leave until next year.  After that I never really talked to him although I wrote him letters, and he emailed me a few times, and one day he called me out of the blue at six in the morning.  As soon as I heard his voice I knew it was him.  He said that we wouldn't be able to talk for a while because he would be in training and he wouldn't have access to technology.  About a month of crying nights and lonely days went by of missing him.  He called me again.  We talked for about an hour, and he gave me a number where I could reach him.  So I called the next day but I could never get through.  I wondered if he had given me a fake number or if something was wrong.  But I got a letter a few days before Christmas from him.  He said he was sorry for neglecting me and that he didn't want me to put my love life on hold for him, because he just wanted me to be happy.  But I wasn't happy unless I was with him, talking to him and laughing with him.  So I waited.

I've been waiting for about 3 months now since I got his letter.  I'm not sure where he is or how he's doing.  He never gets online anymore and I wonder if he's safe.  He talked to my friend one day online and he said he was getting mixed signals from my letters so he stopped writing me.  But he would have written more.  He said he still wanted to talk to me.  So out of hope and just my bleeding heart I wrote him one last letter of determination, asking him to keep in touch and come find me one day.  The emptiness inside my heart is still there, until I look at his picture and his smile fills my soul.  I'm still waiting for his response and hopefully we can pick up where we left off.

I wrote my story in hope that one day we can meet and start our life together.  I'm still hanging on, and to all the net love birds out there.  Have a little faith!!!
Anna


So, what is Cyberlove?

Thanks to the late 20th century technology the Danish Maria and Martijn of Holland met on a chatline. For months they've talked and sent letters to each other with the help of their computers as they found themselves falling head over heels in love. It was then they've decided to meet in the real, not only the virtual, world. It was not easy to arrange as the young man and his lady were separated by 700 very real kilometers, but the date was a success and Maria and Martijn have been living together happily ever since. They've created a home page to let the world know how they've found happiness via the Internet and introduce couples who've met under similar circumstances.

MsGreenFields had hoped for a similar romance when she met her love on the internet. They've arranged to meet. The lonely young woman felt she'd finally found the man with whom she can live with in harmony and realize her dreams. Their personalities and interests were so similar and even their goals seemed to match well. She was not disappointed in his physical appearance either - the man was elegantly dressed, and the romantic champagne dinner, dance and the man's compliments and attention toward her during the evening all served to fuel her feelings of happy expectation. What could have been the happiest of nights turned into a nightmare when they got to her apartment. The man she just spent a wonderful evening with turned into Mr. Hyde and brutally raped her and disappeared. She didn't even have the opportunity to report the incident to the police. What could she have said about the man she knew only as StandByMe through electronic contact and who supposedly, just arrived from Las Vegas. More than likely, StandByMe continues to prowl cyberspace looking for new victims probably under a new nickname and, of course, unpunished.

These two stories are merely two samples of the many experiences you may find on different web sites that feature the topic cyberlove.

Throughout history men and women had used a variety of means to find each other. Internet romance according to some is a bizarre method, and others it is a 'natural' for the 90's, to meet potential mates.  Reading enough pages of people's experiences one could consider a decent length novel, has formed an interesting picture in me of internet romance.

Romances formed on the internet follow a characteristic script. The development of emotional intimacy is a long process, sometimes taking several months. "Love at first byte" is rare although there are examples (Steven J. Baumrucher wrote a book by that title recounting his own experiences details of which may be read on the net). The initial light exchanges, whether by e-mail or in chat rooms, are generally followed by increasingly self revealing topics, where after a while the two strangers perceive each other as a true friend.  Hearts open and an avalanche of e-mail crosses cyberspace carrying literary quality, electric messages are even enhanced with verses, virtual gifts (flowers, kisses, animated pictures). Could any heart with romantic inclinations resist? When you reach for the mouse with sweaty palms and butterflies in the stomach to look in the in-box for new mail - there's just no way to escape the fact - love has arrived.

In more fortunate cases the couple exchanged digitalized photos of themselves through the course of correspondence. This helps to ease the jolt of the initial meeting - which is a critical moment in every cyber love story. It is easy to understand if you realize what hopes and ideals our hero nursed up to that moment. (This reminds me of my colleague who showed up to meet his blind date - through a newspaper ad. He stood on the corner as agreed with a bouquet of roses when the girl approached. Poor Bela could not have slipped away unnoticed, but had a quick escape by saying - 'hello, unfortunately my friend could not come, but he wanted you to have these flowers.) Mr. Romeo must have felt far worse when after corresponding with his e-mail love for the past six months stepped off the plane to find out that she is not really a she, but a transvestite. That was the one minor detail his 'sweetheart' neglected to mention.

Whether in real life or in cyber space, there is real pain and disappointment that accompanies love or what was presumed as love.  Many chose anonymity of meeting electronically thinking the distance provides a cushioning from the usual pains of a relationship. This is not true. Those who don't observe the rules of caution can suffer real and long healing scars.  If we want to protect ourselves from the possible traps it would be useful to visit the romancesite.com website, where we can find many good advice and useful tips on 'how' and 'how not' to meet or flirt on the net. The web page contains real stories giving an opportunity to learn from the mistake of others and have a better chance to recognize the suspicious characters lurking in cyberspace.

Don't think the only danger to your emotions is the lies your partner may tell. Sometimes it may be what we do to delude ourselves that bring negative consequences. While these internet relationships are real enough the invisibility of the partner must be countered somehow and this results in generous doses of fantasizing for some people.  There are those who easily lend themselves to daydreaming and loose their sense of reality. These people are prone to adorn their loved one with characteristics and appearance of a hero from a novel. It is difficult to escape from this dream back into reality unharmed. After the first kiss the prince turns into a frog and the story comes to an unexpected conclusion.

How does a cyber romance vary from a real life romance? Perhaps one significant difference is that communication plays such a large part.  Words that convey feelings have enormous effect. While before a real date we fix our hair and our clothes, on the internet we polish our intellect, imagination and personality. In essence the sequence is reversed - first we show our inner beauty and only after it had won victory does the veil fall off the physical vehicle of that personality at the time of that first meeting in person.

It is a popular topic in cyberspace to debate whether or not true love can develop merely on an intellectual level, that is without the physical attraction, the familiarity of the other's appearance? To put it another way: is the physical appearance of the man or woman play a part in the relationship if through the exchange of thoughts and feelings they already fell in love?

Many say it is against the nature of love to be deprived of the sense of sight, the look, the movement, the body language being present.  There are those, of course, who favor internet relationships claiming that the intensity of the emotional relationship that develops in such a way is superior to the mere stirring of the flesh.

Whatever the opinion may be on cyberlove - it must be said in favor of the internet that it puts people in touch with people that otherwise would never have met. I never would have suspected that the first person I met by e-mail would be a German chimney sweep to whom after a year of correspondence, although no emotional, but a common interest still binds.

There are examples where a real life relationship is damaged because one party gets entangled in a virtual romance that may turn serious.  I remember a local newspaper carrying a story of a mother of three, who left her husband and children to live with a man who webbed her heart through cyberspace. Her story is not singular by any means.  Ann Landers established a club for men and women who perceive the net as the demon that destroyed their marriage or lost their partner because they discovered Mr. or Ms. Right on the web. These letters and Ann Landers' responses may be found online at the Chicago Tribune web site.

It is silly to perceive the net as a demon, when we determine how we meet its challenges. While there are those who can use the net to their advantage extracting useful information, there are those who become addicts losing common sense, hopping from chat room to chat room, writing piles of e-mails full of lies to chosen victims and the virtual reality, the flirtations become a part of their everyday lives as some disease. One thing is true - the net is very addictive.  According to the confession of a multiple substance addict, it was easier to give up cocaine than the IRC.

If, despite all we've said, there are those who still chose the internet as the means to find a partner, they can try the numerous IRC channels, Java chat rooms, the ICQ, online matchmaking services, correspondence groups or in a variety of mailing lists and newsgroups (alt.romance, alt.soulmates) or place their graphically constructed personal home page on-line through which one may convey to the world any information desired. There are many available choices, one need only live with the opportunity.

In any case - be cautious that you don't end up like Mr. Romeo. Keep your eyes open off-line as well - turn off the machine and go to a dance or a club, because most women still expect to be courted in a real, old fashioned, romantic way.

Copyright 2001-2007 Eudating